Change: it’s the only constant in life.
Sometimes change is forced upon us–as we all learned this past year or more with the pandemic. It changed the way we lived life. And, yes, parts of it sucked, but we also learned to change with some positives from a negative situation, too. The forced change helped us learn how much we take for granted — and for me it made me realize just how much I enjoy being around people and connecting face to face.
It also taught me more about how I operate within certain spaces. Last summer, I set up my deck so I could work outside, with rain being the only time I was forced inside to work. Through that, I now know that I absolutely want to have my next office space include opportunities to meet outside — I just loved the outdoor work setting too much to see it change back to the regular cube and box office life.
It’s realizations like that that can help us move forward positively in change.
The most challenging part of change, naturally, is the unknown and forcing us to chance our habits that we’ve grown so comfortable in. We have a hard time accepting that there are usually multiple ways to do things, and oftentimes we feel that if it’s not done ‘our way’ than it’s wrong.
This video from one of my coaching clinics with USA hockey talks about the stages of change to overcome the brain problem (the funniest and most important part comes at about 3 minutes).
The parent referenced in the story could not accept that he had an impact on his kids. He did not want to stop swearing, or punching holes in the drywall when they did the same.
I never got to the stages of awareness with him–he was too fearful; too angry and defensive. They lasted two sessions because I asked for real change and not nickels, dimes and quarters.
Initiating change does not always make it more comfortable, but purposely practicing it makes you aware of how you move through it and illuminates patterns.
And similarly, knowing the process of change does not always make it easier but it makes it somewhat more predictable and arms you with tools to get through, and a reminder that you will get there.
Change means creating. Creating means change. This Ted Talk by Elizabeth Gilbert talks about the process of change and the rewards of sticking to it.